We all are, all the time. We have issues and problems and baggage that never seem to end. And, it seems that the so called small problems present as much difficulty to solve as the so called big problems.
Here is a suggestion to help you find potential solutions to your problems.
Try to imagine what outcome is that you would like to experience. In other words, start at the end and work backwards. Creating the vision will let you see the answer instead of trying to think of an answer.
I wonder if that’s where the phrase ‘looking’ for answers came from?
Here is a great quote that falls into the category of “you are what you eat”.
“What you pay attention to in the world is what you’re going to end up knowing”, from Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psycological Wealth, by Robert Biswas-Diener.
It’s okay to be under the influence of someone or a group. Let yourself be open to change and associate with people of like minded thinking and interests. It will be very good for you.
Just do it. You’ll be very surprised what can happen when the light shines on you.
Recently I had to boost a battery. You know the type, like a car battery with positive and negative posts.
The warning on the charger was clear. Red is positive and black is negative and of course there is a shock hazard if they are reversed.
It did make me think and not just about what I was doing. There are so many people in this world that seem to get their wires crossed by behaving and thinking in ways that are shocking. They really need to take the time to read the instructions!
I wonder if we all could be grounded better by paying attention to some basic rules?
Give more, get more. I know. That’s been said and written about since the fur trade!
Let’s give the phrase a visual reference. Think of this like an upward spiral. If you want more positivity in your life then be positive. If you want more gratitude then be more gracious. If you want more love then be more loving.
Start your upward spiral with a really wide base. Then you can grow higher because of your solid foundation.
Go build something…..now!!
Most of us want to travel more than we do, because it’s good to “get away”. I especially like the planning phase of a trip too. I believe though that there is a way to become a tourist more often and…..without cost!
Try to see your life as a trip. You can view the journey from start to finish if you wish but I’m suggesting treat each day as a trip. Try to appreciate what you see in your own community. Know exactly where you are just like a GPS equipped device! Be kind, courteous and respectful to others so they can enjoy their daily travels. Like a tourist, we want to have an experience to remember. Then travel with an open mind and cumulatively things will happen that you will never forget.
Enjoy the trip. Start planing and don’t get lost!
I believe this is the perfect analogy to help understand and deal with the frustration of attempting to achieve your goals.
Let’s use spirituality as the example and let’s assume you are searching for faith. A difficult search indeed because it’s such a subjective goal.
Your search is like driving in the dark because you can only see as far ahead as the headlights will light up the road. However, as you continue your search…..or keep driving…..the distance the lights shine keeps repeating itself and eventually you reach your destination. You will find what you are looking for, a hundred yards at a time, even though you didn’t know where it was or you didn’t know what it looked like because you had never been there before.
So remember, to get where you want to go in life, it happens in segments of time and space. As you continue on your road you will see the curves and obstacles as they appear, steer around them, and keep going. Soon you will find what you are looking for, even though at one point the end wasn’t in sight.
Don’t be afraid to start something because you don’t know where you are going. Know that you just have to deal with segments of your journey one at a time. Eventually great distances will be behind you.
We know a lot about a lot of things. And if we choose, we can access more information about anything, sometimes more information than we can manage.
Some knowledge though can’t be found in an online search. When it comes to our emotions and senses the only way to truly know and understand them, and ourselves, is by experience.
Want to know more? Then make a choice to do more, be more, try more. If we did challenge ourselves I wonder how “smart” we really could become?
Do you want to be seen as a confident person?
Here are two things you can start doing immediately.
- Don’t hesitate when asked a question. Be quick to reply, even it means that you have to repeat the question back as you think of what you are going to say. The longer the pause the greater the chance you will be seen as less confident.
- Speak clearly. Avoid um’s and aw’s. Don’t give someone a chance to second guess you with your apparent uncertainty.
Of course it doesn’t hurt to look the other person in the eye as you are speaking. Looking down or away negates speed and clarity every time.
A friend said to me that she has a favourite sound for each new season and when she hears it that’s proof that a new season has started. Of course I began to wonder what my list of new season noises would be. Here it is:
Spring: dripping water from melting snow
Summer: a lawnmower starting up
Fall: leaves on the ground blowing in the wind
Winter: crunchy footsteps on snow
When thinking about this list I also realized how lucky I am to live in a place that has 4 very distinct seasons! If you are as fortunate, what’s your list?